Abuse of power in the work place.

It seems that not a week goes by without a news story about anger, confrontation, abuse, or actual violence in the workplace. While the media attention usually goes to figures in the public eye – politicians are notorious in this regard – power struggles in the workplace are, unfortunately, an all-too-frequent occurrence for thousands of working women and men.

With people vying for what can appear to be a very limited pool of prestige and tangible financial benefits, it is no wonder that the workplace is often fraught with difficulties. In addition, because our jobs are often a source of income as well as areas from which we draw pride and security, it is easy to feel threatened by any challenge to that sense of self and stability.

Power struggles in the workplace do not always originate from the top down. Very often, power struggles exist between colleagues. Recognising and understanding typical incidents of poor office politics can go a long way in handling a difficult situation.

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My daughter is lesbian

I just found out my daughter is lesbian: Help!

If the above sentence applies to you, the following passages may be of some help in coming to terms with the new situation. Firstly, it must be said that everyone’s situation will be different, although some similarities will be prevalent in all. The first similarity will be the feeling of being stunned, followed by rising panic or bewilderment when you first find out. Even if you may already have had an inkling as to the sexuality of your daughter, to have it confirmed will still be a significant moment in your life.

Don’t worry! This is perfectly normal when any news of an unexpected nature is received. It is also worthwhile keeping in mind that your daughter may have been thinking of telling you for many weeks or months that she is a lesbian, and so has had quite some time to be prepared. You, on the other hand, have had to react to the news instantly.Read More »

20 and virgin

Constant social interaction and intense media conditioning can intensify the effects of social pressures on a person. An increase in societal expectations, or what are perceived to be so, can be overwhelming for some people and lead to anxiety, stress and withdrawal. One’s sense of self worth should not be based on conforming to social norms. For instance, there is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing to remain a virgin after 20, without succumbing to social pressures. However, if one has issues such as low self confidence, which are affecting their life and stopping them from achieving fully, it is important to address these issues. A therapist or counsellor can help to overcome feelings of low self worth and to live life to the fullest.

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It’s never too late to change your career.

The thought of making a career change in mid-life can be a cause for much stress and anxiety. You may know in your heart that you wish to change the course of your life, but it can be a daunting prospect, especially after having spent years doing one thing. Talking to a counsellor can help you decide which part of your career you have enjoyed so far and work out a new course for your life. But even if you know what is it that you want to do, sometimes you might need a little push before you can actually take the plunge. Professional counselling can help overcome the fears and anxiety associated with big life decisions and help you move forward in life.Read More »

Coping with Big Life Changes

Life is constantly throwing challenges at us, sometimes big, sometimes small. One of the biggest challenges in life is dealing with an important change. All big changes in life, whether they are expected and predictable, or sudden and shocking, have one thing in common, they cause stress. Human beings are naturally resistant to change, and so fatigue, stress and a degree of anxiety come with any big life change. Sometimes, coping with change can become very difficult and it becomes necessary to seek professional counselling.Read More »

Living with anger

One of the common reasons why people seek counselling is anger. There may be occasions where it is justifiable, necessary and even useful to be angry. One of the most important things is to be aware of when it is ok to be angry and when would it may not be such a good idea.

When anger becomes uncontrollable, it may destroy relationships, worsen existing problems and even lead to aggression. But what is anger and why do we get angry?

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