Life is constantly throwing challenges at us, sometimes big, sometimes small. One of the biggest challenges in life is dealing with an important change. All big changes in life, whether they are expected and predictable, or sudden and shocking, have one thing in common, they cause stress. Human beings are naturally resistant to change, and so fatigue, stress and a degree of anxiety come with any big life change. Sometimes, coping with change can become very difficult and it becomes necessary to seek professional counselling.Read More »
Breaking up with someone can be a hard thing to do, and even if it seems right, there is always an element of doubt and uncertainty involved. Am I making a mistake? Should I just see if things will get better? How will I cope by myself? These are just some of the questions that go around and around in the mind when confronted with the situation.
It is not intended of me to give direct advise on what to do or not. The following blog is a collection of useful tips that have helped people in the past to deal with difficult break ups. Please be aware that counselling is not about giving advise or telling people what to do. Most counsellors will not give such a direct advise during counselling sessions.
Dealing with difficult circumstances
Of course, breaking up with someone is made all the more complicated when houses, marriages and children are involved in the equation. Despite the complexity, though, you should still ask yourself the fundamental question of – Should I be in a relationship with this person? If the answer is no, then you need to consider what to do next. Whilst it is only natural that close members of the family and friends might be asked for their opinions and thoughts on the matter, it might also be helpful to see a counsellor as well.